How To Flirt With A Girl

Understanding how to flirt with a girl has the potential to land you more dates than you can keep track of…

Recent polls in women’s magazines, like a recent study done by Cosmo, suggested that women prefer men who understand the subtle language of flirting more than money, good looks, or height.  Shocking, right?

Tinder for people over 40

I’ll work on my look, post better photos, where I’m well dressed. Surely jeans + sweatshirt is a nice turn off for well-dressed 40-year-olds.

Another thing to conclude: I don’t know how Tinder got it, but I like exotic ones. Many Asians, South Americans, Africans appear to me. Maybe they are discarded by others and since I am discarded too, Tinder matches us? Maybe. But maybe Tinder has understood my tastes from my likes and offers me more and more. After all who cares, I like them 🙂

Over 40, Tinder is certainly more stingy with satisfactions – the fact that you like 200 girls without getting matches doesn’t mean that 200 put an ‘X’ on you, but more likely that 160 haven’t even seen you.

They were only symbolic figures to give an idea. I just wanted to say that in the first few days I received several proposals. And on the ones I preferred (counting that I was quite selective) I had a high percentage of matches for 3 day rule dating.

About three years ago I had absolutely no clue on how to flirt or attract a woman. My college buddy Eric had a way with women. I couldn’t figure it out either…

I would describe him as a below average looking guy (pretty short too), that didn’t have an athletic bone in his body, and loved comic books.

Not the image of a “ladies man,” (in other words he didn’t look like he knew how to flirt with a girl) but for some reason women absolutely loved him.

He was never without a date either. Eric consistently dated beautiful, intelligent, and down-to-earth women. Meanwhile, I was stuck “dating my computer.”

I Think We Should Just Be Friends…

One day, a girl I was nearly in love with started dating one of the linebackers from our college’s D1 team. Then when he dumped her, she came crying back to my arms only to tell me the most horrific words I ever heard, “I think we should just be friends.”

I’ll never forget that day, and it was the reason I set out on my journey to make her like me (which later I realized would never happen), but more on that in a minute…

So my new obsession was born. I read books, watched DVDs, and had my buddy Eric start coaching me on how to flirt with a girl. And it seemed like everything I learned was the OPPOSITE of what I thought I should be doing.

And once I started using what I had been learning I almost couldn’t believe my eyes. One of the major things I needed to get over was my fear of approaching a woman. I was comfortable using everything that I learned in the books and courses I bought except around the idea of approaching a girl I thought was cute.

How To Flirt With A Girl, Technique #1:

I battled with this issue until I found a course by an instructor (actually I recently found out that he’s rated #1 in the world) named Brad P.  He called the technique “Agree And Take It To The Absurd.”

You should definitely use this technique if you are scared of getting rejected when you approach a girl. Here’s what you do…

I’m going to use a worst case scenario here, but it will help illustrate my point better. Let’s say you approach a girl and say something to start a conversation. She turns around and in a snide and pretentious tone she says : “O.M.G. Where did you get that shirt?” (implying that your shirt is uncool or lame)…

What would you do? Before I heard of the “Agree And Take It To The Absurd” technique I would respond with something like, “Yeah, it’s a pretty lame shirt, huh?” (Or something dumb like that)…

Here’s what I would do now, using the technique.  ”It’s the WORST shirt in the world! I can’t believe how lame this shirt is.” And immediately go back into what I was talking about, completely unaffected by what she said. The truth of the matter is, she’s probably testing to see if you’ll crack under pressure…

Women will always test you, don’t ask me why, but I think of it like this. Most guys can talk a good game but when it comes to walking the talk, most men can’t back it up. When you aren’t affected by her “test” she’ll immediately become more attracted to you.

The more I learn about this phenomenon and how to flirt with a girl, the more I completely believe it’s true (and that I realize I would probably do it if I was a woman too)…

The thing is, most women don’t have any idea that they’re using this to get rid of weak guys. But, I guarantee once you aren’t affected by her test she’ll immediately be drawn to you.

Just to make sure you understand the strategy called “Agree And Take It To The Absurd.” Everything she says, when she is obviously testing you, simply agree with what she says and take it to the absurd. Examples:

1.) “You’re ugly.” —> “I’m the UGLIEST guy in the world! Anyways…”

2.) “You’re short.” —> “I’m the SHORTEST guy in the world! I’m so short that when I get a drink at a water fountain I need a stepping stool! Anyways…”

3.) “You’re boring.” —> “I’m the most BORING guy in the world! Anyways…”

**If you’re still not getting it, just fill in the blank. “I’m the most [ADJECTIVE] guy in the world!” Then move immediately into whatever you wanted to talk about.

This is a very, very simple technique but it will do wonders for your confidence for beginning to master how to flirt with a girl. When I first heard this technique I immediately felt more confident just by imagining myself approaching a girl. Plus, you come off as a fun, playful, flirty guy – which women love. And you don’t look like a sissy. A sissy can get pushed around and will fail women’s tests every time.

I learned all this and more from a great product called Instant Attraction. By no means do you have to spend money to get good with women, but this product is like a secret weapon for me.

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